Dear Keri

A few things.

1. You're gay. I know you're starting to figure this out and you don't understand why, of all the people in the world, you had to end up in that 10%, but you are. It's OK. You'll be a lot happier once you accept it. Don't wait until you're 20, because you'll have missed valuable "finding yourself" time.

2. I know you and your sis don't get along that well right now, but you have to be a better big sister. Believe it or not, as you get older, she will become your best friend and one of the most amazing people you know. And you don't want to have to carry the regret of not being there for her when you had the chance. You're going to move away for a long time; give her a shot before you leave.

3. Give your dad a break. He's only human, and he loves you more than he could ever actually express. You're also more alike than you would like to believe.

4. Just go for it. Go for everything. You are going to have so much fun and meet such amazing people. Don't hold back. Your 20s will be the best time of your life.

5. One day, someone is going to break your heart. And it's going to hurt more than you think you can bear for a long, long time. But the time you spend with her will be worth it. All I can say is, no matter who you love, don't take them for granted. I know you will feel like they will always be there. But they just might not be. Make the most of every second, every hug, every kiss, every smile.

Above all, know that things tend to work out. Even if you don't feel like it will at the time. Hang in there, be strong and believe in yourself. You will find your way.

Yours very truly,

30-year old you