Dear Bex

I know you're angry inside & don't know who to tell. Your dad is different & you'll take a long time to accept it. I struggle even at 30. Don't worry about what other people think, if you start to accept it, it will feel like the hardest thing, but it will be liberating. He/She is still your dad, and does love you.

You're soon to embark on A-Levels. Don't choose Textiles, Art and Maths (then give up Maths as you had no time to do all the work). Reach for the stars, do Physics, Maths and Art like you really wanted to, but was too dreamy to acually do. You are completely capable, so don't worry. If you don't, you'll regret it big time!

Learn to live with disappointment. Everyone will let you down, especially those you love. Don't carry it with you. At the end of the day, you can't make others care for your feelings, or listen to your advice.

In a couple of years there'll be a song released about 'sunscreen'. Make a copy of the lyrics, there's some good advice in there!

Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today, & don't wait for others to support you. They will speak words, but show no action. You have to acheive your goals alone.

You dream of being a teacher. You are not that person yet. You are are capable of learning the theory, but too nervous to teach. Don't worry, the nerves you have will go in your mid-late 20's.

AB is not 'the one'. Leave him before uni & go there single or else you will resent the years with him, get engaged then break his heart.

If you meet a man called Gary M, do not get into a relationship with him. He will let you love him, then crush your spirit and your heart, and walk away uncaring. If you don't take this advice, you will look back and feel like your 20s were wasted.

Don't then look for love again, love will find you when you stop searching.

Don't spend more than you have. Save up for large items, don't use shop credit. All things can wait, it's better than years of debt!

Always buy good shoes, they will serve you well.

Keep in touch with friends & relatives before you lose them.

Laugh hard and often, sometimes at yourself. Continue to enjoy the little things in life, like sunshine on your skin, the smell of a summer woodland, daffodils, bird song. These things will keep you sane when your world seems askew.

Stand by the motto 'treat others as you would like to be treated'.

Don't wait until you're 30 to live, otherwise you will feel like your life is over. It's never wasted, but you'll have a tough time convincing yourself.

Do your best over the next 6 years, to work your hardest, be the best the can be. Live life to the fullest, stand by your morals & your friends. Do this and you will have no regrets.

Good luck... and have fun!

Becky

xx

P.S. You'll always feel self conscious of your body, you have no need to be! Don't be so precious with your hair have some fun with it, I know it's really really long, but it will grow back if you cut it.